marriage isn't easy

After graduating from high school and trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, all of my friends were getting engaged to be married. I was so jealous and wanted that to me be, I wanted to get married so bad. Well, 2013 came and I met Trevor, we didn't date that long, got engaged after a short time of dating, and than eloped and got married at the court house. That all happened in just three months.

All of my Facebook friends that got married before me, kept posting about how married life was so great and wonderful and it was one of the best decisions of their life. I wanted that, I wanted that perfect marriage just like my friends. I was so naive though, and I had no clue that marriage would be so hard. I even had my family try to tell me that marriage isn't easy at all, but I didn't listen and I'll be honest, I wish I would've listened.

Marriage is not rainbows or butterflies, and perfect like some people make it out to be. I've learned that marriage is hard and not easy at all. Trevor and I are coming up on three years of marriage and I have a list of things that I've learned so far:

-You have to work together, not against each other.

-It's ok to go to bed angry.

-Let the small/dumb stuff go.

-Don't give up what you want most, for what you want now.

-Always let your spouse know how much you appreciate them.

-Never talk bad about your spouse.

-Always let your spouse know that you love them.

It may seem like we have more downs than ups, as well as more lows than highs, but all of that doesn't matter, because it doesn't compare to where we're going. We definitely fight and argue, all married couples do, but that's perfectly normal. The great things about marriage are that, you get to spend everyday with your best friend, you both get to grow together as a couple, but also individually. You get to create wonderful memories together and create a family. 

Marriage isn't easy at all so please don't expect it to be like I did. Just know that marriage is so so worth it.

Until next time,

Xoxo
Emi

***Months ago I wrote a post titled, "marriage isn't for me," you can read it here: https://thesimpslife.blogspot.com/2015/11/marriage-isnt-for-me.html